The “I’m-Not-Good-Enough” Syndrome
I came across blogger Jessica Chilton and a post she wrote on “Good Enough.” Here’s an excerpt:
“This notion of ‘not being good enough’ is so pervasive in our society. It is so common for women to have thoughts like:
‘I’m not skinny enough.’
‘I’m not successful enough.’
‘I’m not pretty enough.’
‘I’m not brave enough.’
‘I’m not strong enough.'”
The pervasive nature of “not being good enough” is not limited to women. It saturates our culture. We live in a shame-based world that tells us all we’re not good enough.
Unfortunately, the church is not immune. While preaching and promoting grace, the church system often create its own version of “not being good enough.”
Chilton’s list for women raises a couple of questions.
- What is the Christian’s list of “not being good enough?”
- What is the pastor’s list?
More importantly, what if we were to discover that God doesn’t create or maintain such a list? What if His message is just the opposite–“you are good enough”?
I’m really enjoying your posts. For years I struggled with the “not good enough” thing. You could pretty much just fill in the blank _____ with just about any word besides creative and I was in my mind not good enough. To get free I had to ask Jesus to go back to the roots of where that started in my life. For most of my Christian life I have had to fight past it to do much of anything. With God’s help I have managed to do a lot of cool stuff through the years. I have stood on the word and told myself I may not be good enough but my God is enough. I can do all things through Him… I can say that I finally got really free from that thing about a year ago.
Anyway thanks for your presence in the blogging world.
Thank you for the feedback. I’m thankful that you’re finding my writing helpful. Hold onto the reality that God does think you’re good enough. He thinks you’re awesome.
Jeff, loving your posts my friend. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I think so many of us can relate so much
Thanks Richard. I appreciate you reading my stuff. I hope it’s helpful.